photo by Julie Herrmannsdoerfer
How could this thought NOT be on my mind, after hosting a retreat by that name this last weekend?
My heart is still singing because of the amazing women who gathered together from all corners of the planet: New York, California, Beirut, Austria, and from all over Italy. They came together to remember what makes their hearts sing, to support each other, to look deeply within, to acknowledge their fears, to move forward despite them, to laugh, to cry, to play, to grow, but mostly to connect. To connect with each other on a deep level, to be vulnerable and feel safe in doing so. To love and be loved.
I am using this forum to say thank you. Thank you to Merci Miglino, for co-hosting the retreat with me. For her wisdom and humor.
And to all my friends who supported me before, during and after the retreat.
And to all the Wild Women who participated in the retreat.
I could not have done it without all of you!
I am humbled and honored and my heart is simply singing (at high volume, opera style!)
Thank you. Grazie. Danke schoen. Merci.
One of my clients recently started her session by announcing, “I am in crisis mode.” She followed this up with, “Nothing works” and continued to talk about what she called her “sordid story” and finally announced “I am afraid of the unknown.” Whew! She had a lot going on in her head that day.
Once she had had the chance to simply vent for a bit, I invited her to notice her choice of words:
Then I asked her how she felt when she said those words. Literally, physically, how she felt.
Answer: “not good.”
So I asked her how she would like to feel.
Answer: “good – I want to feel good.”
Then I asked her what “good” meant to her.
Answer: “When I feel good, I feel like I can make things happen. I feel powerful, positive and energetic.”
So I asked her how she could rephrase what she had just said, so she could feel “powerful, positive and energetic.” After a good bit of thought and reflection, this is what she came up with:
Then I asked her how she felt when she said those words.
Answer: “Good! I feel powerful – like I have a choice!”
We always have the choice of what we say to ourselves (and others).
I truly believe that, as the Buddha said, "The Mind is the source of all Happiness and Unhappiness."
So, for the next week, I invite you to simply be aware of how you are feeling. Then notice the thoughts behind how you are feeling.
If you are feeling good, what are the thoughts that caused you to feel good? And if you are not feeling good, what thoughts caused those feelings to arise? Don't judge yourself. Simply take note of your thoughts.
Awareness is the first step to creating the life you truly desire.
And you can always choose the thoughts that make you feel good and empower you!
If you're ready to go from bored to bodacious, you've come to the right place!
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